What To Talk About When Sexting
Everyone and their mothers are sexting these days. No, not with each other. Sorry for putting that image in your head. What we mean is that it has become totally normalized and people actually have a preference for how they want to be sexted. It’s the same way they have preferences in the bedroom. Like normal sex, and maybe even more so, sexting can get awkward if you don’t know what you are doing or how to cater to your sexting buddy’s needs. There are so many directions to take the sexting after it’s initiated (from photos, to lengthy erotic text, to videos, and more) that it the variety of options can become paralyzing. What should you talk about when you sext?
There’s no right or wrong answer. Just like regular sex, as long as it’s consensual sexting, it’s good sexting. If you know the person you are sexting really well, then it’s possible that you already know what you should be talking about. What does that person enjoy when you are having physical sex? You should dig deep into the things you know they like and bring up some of your own fantasies. The surprising thing about sexting is just how hot the written word is. Nobody taught us in English class that writing could be a huge turn on. Who knew?
But not everyone is a great writer or an awesome sexter. Some people need a tad bit of direction to know exactly how to proceed in a sexting conversation. Having some ideas of what to say beforehand might make your sexting operation run way more smoothly. To help you out, we have come up with some reliable things to text about while you are sexting. These topics are a sure-fire way to keep the sexting steamy and heading towards an orgasm on both ends.
Masturbation Techniques
Sexting is mutual masturbation sex. You are both alone touching yourselves, together. So explaining your technique is a great idea and a sexy way to turn on your sexting friend. What are you doing with your hands while you are sexting? Perhaps you are using toys to help you along. Text or message about exactly what is happening to your body as you touch it and all the sensations you are feeling.
Memories
Have you already had sex with the person you are sexting? If the answer is yes, rely on your memories of the good times. Refer to things you loved that the person did to your body. You can tell them what you would be touching if you were in the room with them.
Tell me what to do
Ask your sexting friend to be the boss if you really don’t know what to say. They can tell you what to do to yourself or what they are fantasizing about you doing to them. It’s ok to give up the lead and let your sexting buddy take over if you would prefer to sit in a more submissive role.
Fetishes
Got any kinky fetishes that you can barely talk about out loud? With sexting, you don’t have to say a word. Use the sext as a confessional for these dirty secrets of yours and allow yourself to be turned on by the response of your sexting buddy.
Roleplaying
Some people love to roleplay while they sext because it’s easier to talk about kinky stuff while in a character or a role. You can start off by choosing who you want to be in the scenario and utilize the fantasy as a tool to carry you through the sexting from scene to scene.
The turn-ons
What turns you on? You can talk about your sexting friend’s body parts, things they do in the bedroom, or general things that make you really horny. Your sexting friend will hopefully respond with what turns them on as well.
Things you’d never dare attempt
You can use sexting as a safe space to explore your sexual desires. Maybe you’d never really buy a sex swing in real life, or anal scares the bejeezus out of you. Peek into that undiscovered world by using sexting as a road map. It’s all pretend and resides solely in the body of a text. So have no fear and conquer those sexual dreams!
Add in characters
Love threesomes? feel free to invent characters to bring into your sexting world. You can set up a scene that involves a third member who might not actually exist. But we don’t suggest adding more than one person to the scene as it can get a little confusing for your reader when there are too many characters involved in the sexting fantasy.
Pictures with descriptions
Photos or videos are usually part of the sexting process. But many people don’t accompany them with sexy text. Our advice to you is to send these hot visuals with lines about what you are doing to yourself in the photo or video. The words combined with the images will tingle the senses of your sexting friend.
Actual erotic lines
Not sure what to say at all? Steal it! Who cares? Nobody is going to lock you up for stealing some lines from real erotica. Copy a quote from 50 Shades or any erotica website. Use it as a jumping-off point if you get stuck. Having it handy is never a bad idea.
Sexting, again, is a free-for-all. As long as you feel safe and your sexting partner feels safe, you can say whatever you want that turns you both on. It is a sexual experienced lived out through words, pictures, and videos. Whatever gets you off is what is going to work best.