Here’s How Not To Sext

Scour the internet for sexting tips. You will find plenty of opinions from people who are telling you what to say and how to play it cool. Flirting, sexting, and sending nudes can be really fun when you know what you should be saying. Sexting styles are going to be different for everyone who loves to send naughty messages and aside from consent, there aren’t a ton of rules you’ve got to follow. People are creative in their sexting stylings. Sexting is usually a mix of clever sexual innuendos followed by more obvious sexual messages. But not everyone is great at it and though there are no real sexting rules to follow, there are some sexts that just shouldn’t be sent because they aren’t that hot. Below you will find a list of sexts you shouldn’t send either because they are mood killers, kind of lame or just bad sexting practice.

The Official Genitalia Words

There are more creative ways to describe your junk or the pleasure regions of your partner that aren’t found in a classroom textbook. Avoid sending the scientific jargon to your sexting friends. Reach for other words, such as slang or more inventive ways to describe the nether regions. Using scientific words feels clinical and generally unsexy. Try to take them out of your dirty vocabulary. Sexting is about making each other hot and having a fun time. It’s not a lecture given to you by a Physical Education teacher.

Novels

Sexting is quick. It’s back and forth. The rhythm is usually go, go, go. You shouldn’t be sending paragraphs upon paragraphs when you sext. A longer message is alright to send if it contains a lot of juicy details. But don’t subject your partner to reading lengthy messages. You might fancy yourself an erotic writer but here is not the place to test the waters. It’s not hot to receive pages and pages of text on your phone. Even if you think that you’ve just created a sexting masterpiece. Try to keep the messages on the shorter side with sporadic longer messages when they feel appropriate.

“Yeah”

You might shout and moan in real life while you are having sex. Sexting is meant to mimic or bring to life a sexual experience via text message but that doesn’t mean that every little detail is going to be the same. Much of a sexting chat is improvisation and when you text the sounds you would make like “mhmmm” or “oh yeah,” you don’t give the other person much to work with. The last thing you want is to force them into a position where they have to sit and wonder what to say. Creativity breeds more creativity. If you feel that you need to show someone that you are having a good time or that you want to project the sounds you are making while you masturbate and sext, send a panting voice message through instead of this boring one-word response.

Be Careful With Emojis

Emojis are fine to sext in the very beginning of the chat. They are a fun way to initiate sexting foreplay and there are a lot of viable emojis that feel very sexual. Send them when you start texting but be wary of overuse. But emojis can be quite jovial and silly which might eventually kill the mood if you use them too much. Don’t turn a hot sexting session into a cartoon by tapping emojis all the time. If you insert them too much into the sexting chat you are going to take away from the sexy nature that exists within sexting itself.

Don’t Get Greedy With The Nudes

Consent is the most important thing when doing anything sexual with another person. Your sexting friend might want to send you naughty messages but they might not feel comfortable sending you their naked pictures. Give them the space and time to get comfortable doing that. Asking for nudes over and over again when your sexting buddy isn’t into sending them is like being the dude who is inappropriately grabby at the bar. You are able to ask for nudes. But if the person isn’t down, don’t follow it with a “C’mon” or “Pleeeeeeeeease” text. You are a grown person. Not a kid in grade school who needs a nude to feel cool. There are plenty of people out there who are dying to send you nudes and they can be found are various sexting sites. If you aren’t sexting with a monogamous partner, head to one of the many sexting websites out there.

Don’t Bring Up Others

Don’t bring up other people unless you are sexting about having a threesome. We love nudes and we follow a lot of pornstars on Snapchat and OnlyFans and it’s possible that you do the same. But the person you are sexting doesn’t want to hear about the hot thing that your favorite pornstar did. Nor does this person want to be asked for a picture like the one that Lana Rhoades just posted. Sexting is an exercise between you and the person you are texting. Don’t try to turn them into someone that they aren’t by bringing up people who you think are sexy.